The turmoil inside my head

When did life ever come out as a fair game?

When did life ever show it is just?

Does poetic justice exist only in books and films? Or is it just a creation of a hopeful mind?

A million thoughts cross my messed up head as soft guitar chords are heard setting up a painful tune. I just realize the sound comes from my Laptop's super advanced Altec Lansing speakers and I realize that I am being drawn away by my own thoughts. I find it difficult to focus on the tangible items lying in front of me. I find it difficult to orient myself t time and space despite a mug of strong black coffee.

Perceptual splitting and eventual schizophrenia?

Naaah.....My mind is used to making diagnosis and trying to prevent the occurences before treatment is left as the only option.

More thoughts......Not one of them is positive. 


Only my heart and my God know how I have managed work and studies for such a long time. But the speech of God is not audible and to my heart, no one listens---not even me! Who's to give the testimony?

Wow! My sense of humor may not be good, but my sense of sarcasm is improving incredibly!

Now was that a display of sarcasm??????!

The mug of coffee is still lying here, untouched and I am staring at the laptop screen without a single expression on my face. I could've been dead!
I need to get up and force myself to get oriented to the real world. I need to shake myself of the emotional unreality and put my legs into the freezing waters of the Arctic reality. 

More thoughts, I'll meet you in the shower. That's how I take 30 minutes to complete my bath! Ohhhhh the world here in my head gives me so much more pleasure than the real world. I don't mind splitting my brain in a million pieces. I'll take the responsibility to hold those pieces together.

Migration & Pruning in brain cells: Ever heard of it?

Neuropsychology has gained an entirely new perspective with extremely detailed research done through MRI, FMRI and PET scans. However, from the viewpoint of clinical psychology, one question will always remain: ‘Is it in the brain or in the mind?’’

One of the most difficult questions in neuroscience and medicine, isn’t it?

The answer remains equally ambivalent. It is a double-edged sword. It depends on the intensity and type of a disorder with which the person is afflicted. However, one thing is absolutely clear: Just as human beings are ‘’social’’, so is the human brain. 

By the eighth week of conception, the zygote experiences 250,000 neuroblasts (nerve cells per minute). Cells in brain show a particular behaviour. They all perform different functions. Cells that perform similar function, gather together in a place. For example, cells that are to perform verbal functions would gather in a place and relate to that function only.

Cells migrate all the time. Even after birth. However, the process of moving of cells from one place to another is called migration. Visual neurons become visual neurons, not because they are born visual, but because they migrate to a particular part of the brain to perform that activity.

Psychological disorders like schizophrenia, autism, dyslexia and many more are caused mostly because of some defect in migration.

And then comes the time to talk about behaviour. 

These cells, while migrating, and otherwise too, come in contact with genes and when this happens, behaviour (response) activates. Over a period of time, if the neurons are not medicated or trained to change response, that behaviour becomes ingrained and thus, as a result, you get many complaints!!!

‘’He’s got an anger issue, right since his childhood!!!!!’’

‘’She always gets anxious, no matter what the situation is. She has always been like this’’.

Whose gone inside her head would know what took to make her ‘anxious’’ since ‘forever’?

And there, when research so clearly proves that there are lots of substances that inhibit the healthy migration process. Mothers who smoke are shown of have children who suffer ADD. Alcohol also inhibits healthy migration causing FAS (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome).

Let us come to the second part. Pruning.

Before that, let’s make it clear. The world and ‘life’ (each organism) lives and dies in a state of ‘competition’. Charles Darwin’s term ‘Survival of the fittest’ strikes me first as I think about Pruning.

Think of an office where you’ve got nothing but utter competition. Employees who do not perform are thrown out and those who become incapable to perform because of old age, they retire. Same is the case with neurons.

Why does an 83 year old woman face so much of difficulty in seeing? One reason is that the speed with which neurons regenerate in her occipital lobe is very slow. More and more neurons lose their capacity to function; this problem as a result!

Life, movement, regeneration, organization, destruction is more than just a part of nature. It inhabits every cell!

Please let me know if this explanation answers the question:

‘Brain or mind?’ sufficiently

With many clients, I don’t buy into their talk when they use the term ‘’hereditary’’ so loosely. That’s layman talk. Except a very few cases of Huntington’s disease or color blindness or phenylketoneuria, very few disorders are completely governed by one single ‘gene’. It’s so easy to blame ‘genes’.

One epic joke: ‘Sorry darling, I misbehaved. My dad did it this way. It’s in genes!!’

The darling is going to understand the shit behind sophisticated neuropsychology.

Now let’s take the example of diabetes. It is highly genetic, but if the person who is pre-disposed to it takes care not to become over-weight, it can be avoided. Never blame genes fully for anxiety, depression or schizophrenia. It’s always a dual process.

I am not sitting on the fence by speaking on both sides, but I do feel the complexities leave us with no other option.

Eternity.........................: About GAD (Generalized anxiety disorder)

Eternity.........................: About GAD (Generalized anxiety disorder): GAD (Generalized anxiety disorder) is perhaps the most misunderstood clinical condition. It becomes dangerous when used loosely by laymen a...

About GAD (Generalized anxiety disorder)

GAD (Generalized anxiety disorder) is perhaps the most misunderstood clinical condition. It becomes dangerous when used loosely by laymen and professionals without adequate clinical knowledge and training. My purpose of writing this blog is not to write ''about'' GAD but ''for'' it.

Last year, a colleague from the department of Egyptology approached me and said: 

''I have cigarettes. They kick up the system and now I feel I got GAD. You know, I am crazy.''

I felt like clutching my head. I groaned ''Oh God! Not one more, please!!''

First of all, this person was a 100% sure he had GAD.

Secondly, he thought he was an expert and knew what moderated his so-labelled GAD because according to him, feeling anxious about everything defined GAD. Well, GAD isn't that simple.

I asked him, ''Do you know what GAD is?''

He fumbled. He knew he'd been caught on the wrong side but he was quick to reply, ''I think it's just feeling anxious about everything.''

''And what is that everything?'', questioned I.

''I can't clinically define it but this is what I feel''

''It seems you aren't sure what GAD is, are you?''

''No''

''And yet you, so confidently diagnosed yourself''

Most of us think we know ourselves the best, so we can give labels and having a psychological label sounds like a cool new thing on the block. You may know yourself the best, but you don't know the disorder itself. So think a hundred times before self-diagnosing.

Coming back to GAD, I won't defy everything my Egyptologist friend had said. 

GAD does comprise of anxiety, but anxiety's second level, which is called meta-worry is the main driver for GAD. It's not the worry. It's worry about worry. Adrian Wells speaks of these cognitive levels in depth.

Borkovec and Newman (1992) have given another explanation stating that worrying is an attempt to avoid more acute distress. Confrontation with real life situations can be a real ''pain in the arse'' and worrying about them gives a sense of ''solving the problem in head'' (though they are never really solved). But you get the idea how it keeps going.

The third explanation is given by Quebec who says GAD develops with the habit of ''intolerance of uncertainty''. It is not good to remain uncertain. 

Let me speak about my own self to elaborate Quebec's weird but true explanation. 

Autumn 2009. 
I was called in to see our neuropsychology professor, Dr. Tree.
I had read a lot of his work in journals and in books. I respected him and I still do.
However, I did not know why he had called me in his office. I couldn't stand that uncertainty. I was supposed to see him on Monday and the entire Sunday night was spent tossing in bed. Before some light sleep came over to me, I thought I must have failed my Neuropsychology assignment or must have done a project badly. Failing was bad, but was still better than uncertainty.

The next day I enter Dr. Tree's cabin with the conclusion that I must have failed. All I get to know was I had scored the second highest in the entire masters' batch in Neuropsychology Module.


So you see how important it is to be certain all the time?????!!!

That's how brains work!

And mind it, I wasn't diagnosed with GAD because again, we must bear in mind that clinical diagnosis does not depend on 1-2 such events.


GAD presents clinically in a million different ways, but in your case histories, it is very important to understand what events in their lives have precipitated their GAD. There may be many events, but some are crucial. Plus, there is one major philosophy behind GAD and it is:

''Over-estimation of the situation and under-estimation of their own coping resources''

Apart from that, ''Cognitive distortions'' or ''UTH'' (Thinking habits) as described by Burns (2000) must be outlined.With GAD patients, they know they are thinking shit and they don't want to hear it from  their doctor. 

As a psychotherapist, never focus on telling them what's right and what's wrong. Try using Beck's Anxiety Inventory, HADS or GHQ (in general) and GAD-7, which is a specific GAD inventory to know the crucial potholes in their clinical condition and how it impacts their health. 

Never underestimate the ''topics'' about which your GAD clients worry or say, seek internal safety. They might worry about a possible storm and their property getting destroyed, but that cannot be stamped as ''illogical''. If you try to explain the ''truth'' or ''logic'' of the thinking, you'll only involve in an argument. They are not wrong because an unlikely storm is absolutely possible......but why do they worry about it and we don't?

Statistics are alarming.....I don't buy into them, nor would I advise anyone to remember and buy into statistics. They are not perfect and so are researchers (they are more than imperfect)

There is a little more for those who are interested:

There is one more aspect which is good only to rely on when reading; it is Neurobiology of GAD (or any other condition for that matter)
What I present here may not necessarily be the truth, so it is important to be objective.

Just as any clinical condition is bound to cause alterations in chemical, hormonal and neuronal features of the body/ brain, there's one sure universal fact; the brain is affected. You cannot have just a few areas of brain getting affected in isolation.

I would bring into picture Amygdala (the old brain emotional centre), peri-amygdala regions (for the same emotions) as well as Pre-frontal cortex (for cognitive processing).
I might be saying this because I am CBT therapy oriented where cognitions and emotional reaction is the key behind understanding any disorder. 

Biologists and neuropsychology may rely more on Hippocampal regions to understand the impact of ''narrative events'' from case histories.

Most studies are based on activities shown in MRI and PET-scans, but even these and FMRI scans can only speak about the glucose activity going on in these regions at that point of time and since this is extremely fickle, it is hard to put a stamp of 100% objectivity here as well.

The answer to this and many other questions leads us to the topic of GAD treatment which is not the purpose of today's blog. 

I have tried clarifying clinical GAD in a simple manner. I have tried my best to avoid technical terms and jargons and stick to examples from real life events. I just thought this wouldn't make the blog look like an academic lesson.  Your feedback is very important to me.

Thank you very much.


Phoram Trivedi.

First things first: Before CBT or Neuroscience

1. Buy and sell: The knowledge game.

Going to U.K for masters is not a part of sophistication any longer. With India's development and progress in the 21st century, it's a matter of pride that every Indian from financially stable family can afford foreign education if he saves wise and earns smart. I am definitely speaking under the influence of David Cameron's recent visit to India & catching up with students.

However, the point is not this. The point it doing an MSc in Abnormal and Clinical psychology.

As a 16-17 year old passionate kid, I was always keen on studying clinical psychology (Paper 4 as Gujarat University put it) because the processes in the disorders, symptoms, diagnosis looked very appealing. I went to University of Wales, Swansea with the same passion.

ALAS! Only if passion could solve all the problems. Unfortunately, it doesn't.

In clinical psychology, what matters the most is not having diagnostic criteria at the tips of your fingers. I do not remember how many criteria need to be fulfilled in order to be diagnosable for GAD or MDD.

Secondly, it is always necessary to remember that the nature of the disorder has to be explored in depth through research. And rule of thumb, there is nothing right or wrong in research, because no research is perfect. Every research has it's limitations. So, you must learn 'NOT TO BUY INTO' any research, but just read it to be aware. The moment you start relying and buying on already existing researches, you lose focus and critical analysis.

Researchers just try to be objective in their viewpoints, which many, at least in India mistake for lack of knowledge, being diplomatic or sitting on the fence. It is my belief that as students, aiming to launch careers, it is very important to develop critical reasoning as a part of your personality and not just limiting it to academics.


2. Statistics, Mathematics, is that Lucifer, the devil?
Statistics and mathematics is the nemesis for so many students. I won't exclude myself from the category.

As a teenager, I landed up in this completely different world with high class statistical terms like Multiple regression analysis, running an SPSS, Kendall tests, Mann Whitney U-Tests and much more. I cried on the first day, I won't lie about it. However, what I learnt was that conceptual knowledge is more important than results. Indian system needs to learn that.

You are allowed to use calculators, and if you get a wrong answer through calculator, you lose only half a mark. But if your answer is right and you got the wrong procedure, you will be marked down.
You learn a very important lesson.

''Journey is important, not the destination''.

If we all tried to work like this, we'd be literate, quick and educated rather than being literate, quick and uneducated (just informed).

Mathematics and statistics is logic after all........as simple as that. In India, I believed and was really bad at basic school mathematics, but now I don't. The meta concept is that mathematics should be delivered in the right manner. India is the country in which ''0'' was invented, a country that did great stuff in geometry and trigonometry and sadly enough today we are complicating mathematics so much instead of understanding the basics. Is this how you prove that you're into the competition?

(PS: I don't even remember the procedures now, but if I re-acquaint myself, these procedures should come easy).

3. Research and practice are different but same.

''Go and start your practice now'' is the typical advice.

The student becomes happy. I don't have to study any longer......I am the all knowledgeable person in this area because now, I can practice.

Dear Pappas and mummys, your child has started practising, it doesn't mean he/she is an expert. Most of us don't even look back to books once.



This is my view after I finished my Post masters dip degree in CBT Therapy from University of Wales, Newport. I am not a CBT expert. I finished 100 hours of clinical training under supervision and even after all this, there's still improvement.

I almost swore at what I learnt back home about 'Open ended and close ended questions' and 'Settings of a clinical counselling// therapy room''. What the fuck!!! It does not matter.....I never wore any formal clothes to the clinical centre, and still managed to complete a degree accredited by BACP (British Association of Clinical Psychotherapy).

Practice in Clinical psychology is about remaining open to the diagnosis. Giving a label is not enough. A patient comes to me, I talk over and diagnose him with OCD, or GAD. The process through which the vicious cycle of formation is made and how the clinical collaboration works to make this change is the core of practice.

Practice brings you back to research.......How many  clients did you see? How did it work with each one of them? Are there any repetitive patterns you marked in them? A tiring frame of reference to build indeed!

4. At the end, it is application and thinking that matter.

One evening I was feeling quite stressed out and said this to my colleague who's into Marine Science.

He instinctively turned towards me and spoke ''Use psychology here.....''

I did not speak any further. I was shocked as to how loosely terms are perceived.

I may have my own views are are not compatible with a healthy thinking style, but until and unless I don't let them interfere my professional and academic life, how does it matter whether I am obsessive or depressive?

It may matter to some, though.

If you have a critical thinking you should be able to hear crap from others and not arguing back in a loud voice. That is my simple perception, non academic and non clinical.

5. A dream

Based on all the aforementioned crap and some useful stuff I might have written above, I dream of a new education system, at least in my field of clinical science and clinical psychology/ neuropsychology: A system that is not governed by the state, a system that is based on unbiased approaches and a system that makes citizens and responsible professionals out of students.

I do not day dream or fantasize about this, but having this at the back of my mind keeps me grounded and motivated. All I know is that passion and dreams can give you a direction but a proper pathway ensures that you are on the right track.

My dream is to make knowledge primary and information secondary.

My dream is to help promote conceptual thinking and avoid biased thinking.

I want it to be a win-win situation for all.

If I could have your feedback on this, I'd be more than pleased.


Please do not think this blog is written by an expert. It is written by a common student.......a student for lifetime.

The next blog shall be about Neuroscience and CBT.

FIR-Mahabharat Crossover (Dedicated to GOPI)

Kunti introduces her newly wed daughter-in-law Draupadi to Hastinapur. I am presenting the entire fight in FIR context. It starts with introducing the spicy-tongued Draupadi in the court of Dritrashtra as the newly wedded Daughter-in-law and then comes a big fight amongst everyone.

Kunti: Pranaam Jeshth shree Dritrashtra Maharaj is the….

She is my daughter-in-law from aaj is the…

Draupadi: Well, my pranaam to all is the,

 please don’t stare at the wall is the…..

Kunti: Is se pehhle sab dede koi reaction is the.

Let me give you har ek ka introduction is the……

Yeh hai Maata Gandhari is the,

Inke bête padenge tum pe bhaari is the…..

Gandhari: Putra vati bhava. Akhand Saubhagyawati bhava…….

Kunti: Yeh hai Duryodhan /Dushashan tumhare Devar is the,

Dyut kreeda bhavan mein dikhayenge asli tevar is the..…..

Draupadi: What are you saying is the,

I am not going to bear that pain is the……

Kunti: Yeh hai  Mahatma Vidur is the….

Jo nahi hote hai satya se kabhi door is the…..

Draupadi:

Tumhare satya ki main lungi kabhi na kabhi test is the…..

Please don’t take trouble, now go and rest is the….

Kunti: Aur yeh hai Bheeshma Pitamaah is the,

 inhe raaj karne ki nahi hai koi chaah is the……

Draupadi: Pranaam dadaji is the……

(Bheeshma gives a strange expression)

Draupadi (to kunti):

 Sasu maa, yeh kaala shaks kaun hai itna sad is the,

Is he retard or is he mad is the???

Kunti: Yeh hai Ang Raj Karna is the,

 Inko hua hai sun Burn is the……

Draupadi: Well dude Bheem is the,

 Ang-raj ke liye laao sun burn ka cream is the……

Karna: Mujhe pe mat karo upkaar, tum bhi ho Kaali is the….

Paach husbands wali tum ho Panchaali is the….

Draupadi: Well bro Soot Putra is the……

Kutte ko Gujarati mein kehte hain Kutra is the…..

Kunti: Yeh hai tumhaara Jeth toh mat karo fight is the,

Day ke baad aati hai night is the…..

Shakuni:  Well, Draupadi beta, you have not touched my feet is the,

Ab main karunga Gambling mein cheat is the……

Draupadi: Bread ke saath achcha lagta hai jam is the,

Tumhara bura hoga anjaam is the….

Kunti:

Tum sab ho mote-aur tagde is the…

Meri bahu se mat karo jhagde is the….

Mere saath chal Draupadi beta is the,

Yeh yug nahi hai Tretaa is the…

Duryodhan: Dafaa ho…..Ab milte hai in the game of Dice is the,

Pandavo ki life mein Draupadi banke aayi hai Spice is the….

Yudhishthir: Anuj Braata, mat karo mujhko challenge is the,

You are very wicked and also very strange is the….

(The next day they meet in the Druit Kreeda Bhavan, the Dice game hall)

Yudhishthir: Well bro, Don’t try to act smart is the,

Game khelna tum log karo start is the

Shakuni: Duryodhan ki ore se main fekunga Dice is the,

Antarctica main hoti hai bahot Ice is the…..

Duryodhan: Tum sab bhaai lag jaaoge on gamble is the,

Ladies ko respect karna is in Indian Preamble is the….

Arjun: Ladies ki respect ki tum toh naa hi karo baat is the…

Nahi toh uth jaayega tumpe mera haath is the….

Yudhishthir: Bheem mat karo gussa is the….

Waise bhi tere dimaag mein hai Bhoosa is the

Karna: Hum jaayenge jeet is the……

Aur lenge tum paanchon ko peet is the…

(They win the game and the Pandavas lose)

Dushashan: Ab lagenge 4 bhaai daav pe is the,

Lagana shuru karo davaa ghaav pe is the…

Yudhishthir: Kuch nahi keh raha hu kyunki tum ho mere braata priya is the,

Warna yaad rakho hum sab bhi hai Kshatriya is the….

Shakuni: Tum haar gaye ho game is the,

Don’t be wile, be tame is the….

Duryodhan: Ab kya hai tumhare paas is the?

Bhaaiyon k alawa bhi koi hai khaas is the….??

Yudhishthir: Well, bro…..Tum mujhe itna bhadkaaoge yadi is the,

Lagata hu main daav pe Draupadi is the…

(They lose Draupadi too)

Arjun: Brata shree, yeh aap nahi jaante ek aurat ki peeda is the….

You lost her in Dyut Kreeda is the…..

Nakul: Well bro, this is not good is the,

Bhaiyya Bheem is crazy for food is the.

Karna: Well Yudhishthir,  you have lost all is the…..

Call that arrogant Draupadi into the hall is the…..

The name of our continent is Asia is the,

Draupadi ko main kahunga Veshya is the…..

Arjun: Yaad rakho dusht, mera naam hai Arjun is the…..

Zyada bologe toh chus lunga tumhaara khoon is the…..

Duryodhan: Oye gadhe, idiot khacchar is the….

Now your status is less than a machchar is the….

Dushashan, please call that aurat is the,

Jiski hui mujhe andhaa bolne ki jurrat is the….

(Draupadi is dragged to the court by hair. She is struggling and Dushashan does not listen)

Dushashan: You are our daasi is the….

Bade bhaiyya ko hui hai Khaansi is the.

Karna: You are living in Asia is the,

I will call you Veshya is the…..

Draupadi: KARNA!!!!!  Mere gusse ki dabaaiye hai tumne chaanp is the,

Ab main tumhe deti hu shraap is the……

Duryodhan: Well bro, Dushashan is the,

Kar lo is Ghamandi aurat ka vastraharan is the…..

Chalaao yeh gaadi is the,

Kheench lo iski saadi is the….

Bheem: Tujhaaaaa…………………….

Yudhishthir: Shaant Bheem …….Shaant……Krodh….tum krodhit ho……

Bheem: Meri patni ka vastraharan ho raha hai…Kaise na hou Krodhit?

Nakul: Haan Bhaiyya…..Main yeh nahi hone de sakta…Meri bhi biwi hai…

Yudhishthir: Nakul…..Biwi nahi, Bhabhi….Tumhe kaun Pandav samajta hai…..

Arjun: Well, bro….Isko main jeet kar laaya tha…………

Yudhishthir: Toh kya hua? Haara toh maine hai na….

(The vastraharan process begins and he pulls her robes and the music starts….Zoobi Doobi)

Krishna Bhagwan appears

Krishna: Well Panchali, tumhare safety hai Pakki is the,

Because you are my best friend and Sakhi is the……

(Draupadi is saved and her honour is intact)

Draupadi: Why did you come so late is the,

Kya tum bhoot ho yaa pret is the?

Krishna: Whatever! But maine tumhe kiya hai save is the….

I am ultimately brave is the….

I am the best in this clan is the

Main hoon apne zamaane ka spiderman is the ……

Draupadi: Lekin iss saree ka ganda hai fall is the….

How can I smile after all is the???

Draupadi: (to Pandavas)  Khelo, tum sab khelo yeh ganda game of taash is the….

Ek din isi ki wajah se hoga Kuru vansh kaa naash is the…..

Bheem: Dushashan, tumne liya hai Draupadi se pangaa is the,

Yuddh mein todunga main teri Jhangaa is the….

Shakuni: Lekin haarne par tum sab jaaoge leke yeh traas is the,

13 varsh ka hoga tumhe van vaas is the…..

Draupadi: Well, Mamashree….. Jahaan hui hai meri izzat chakna choor is the,

Main chod ke jaa rahi hu Hastinapur is the….

Arjun: Panchali, odh lo saaree kar lo isko wrap is the….

These Kauravas are nothing but crap is the…

Duryodhan: Now you all get out is the,

My throat is sore I can’t shout is the….

(Thus, They all go for the Vanvaas and Agyaatvaas)

Abosheshey: Personal review

Reviews of movies are written by critics and intelligent people who can think. Perhaps I am not very intelligent. Cannot think at all......And criticism....hahahaa......Let me put that on an altogether new platform. If I said Abosheshey made me think, I'd be comparing myself to people who can intellectualize. However, the film made me do another think----quite distinct from thinking....I shall call it 'feeling'. It made me feel--not caring even if it did go on to win Roopa Ganguly's national award, success at London Film Festival and Keral Film Festival winner.

And I am so scared because the concept has stirred feelings in me that I never knew existed before. 

Ravi had told me that he was able to subscribe to Abosheshey, but it had been kept off for some or the other reason. I managed to watch it today and since past 5 hours, I haven't spoken a single word. 

The film has some great highlights which I'd like to talk about:

1. Good films make you think, best films make you feel

It has been years: I don't remember myself being into 'emotions'. Every week my colleague Tony McAvoy and I re-visit the same sentence ''We don't do emotions at all''. But today, I would beg to differ from the rest of the world because I have been put to silence.

I was under the impression, that I am a very strong person because I have fought and lived through harsh times. Nothing can ever weaken me. I could never have bothered because there was nothing worth living for..........Never once had it crossed my mind that there are existing relationships and probable ones that are worth living for. The character Suchismita's life (ironically death) spoke volumes about what I am trying to state here.

Attaboy!!! Movie making in progress.....Men & women at work!

2. Great acting needs no drama

Indian movies are well-known for using melo-drama to express emotions. It has infact become a trade-mark. In a way, over the years we have learnt to appreciate it and consider it ''cute''.

However, there are actors of a cadre who put the word ''acting'' to great shame because whatever they do comes out absolutely natural. How effortlessly their performance can make you gape with mouths wide open!

Many people and even media have said that Roopa Ganguly is a great actress. I'd always use the word artiste for her. The reason is that natural glimpses from personality make their way to screen. In all the performances, Roopa Ganguly has only portrayed, performed and displayed and established.....which proves that we are proud to own as a nation, one of the finest and highly celebrated performers of our times. 

May Maa Saraswati bless such eminent talents of our country.

Artistes in the quieter canopies

3. In good films: The term 'Romance' is much beyond valentine-hood!

In films, romance has been a very narrowly used term. Romance means love, longing, attraction and maybe courtship. Suchismita's character planted romance into life.....and even more so, into death.

Another aspect for which I must give a standing ovation to Roopa Ganguly is for choosing the film with a great concept. Even though, directors and people behind the screen have created a magical character, Suchismita, Roopa Ganguly has justified it on screen. It is what an artiste brings to the screen......something that is a part of her soul.

Nandini, portrayed by Raima Sen and Soumyo by Ankur Khanna have played  very atypical roles. What possibly could be the relationship between you and your deceased neighbour's son --all but based on pure humanity and lending a helping hand at soul-searching.

Suchismita romanced life----A very great reminder to me of my grandpapa who I lost 11 years back. Life has gone on since then, but Suchismita's interest in everything ranging from painting to singing and rallying reminds me so much of Grandpapa with whom I explored India, learnt how to enjoy good music, read stories from Ukraine to China and from Japan to Indonesia.......Since he died, I have done nothing.......Not even touched a game of chess till 2 days back, never touched an old German camera or learnt about plants......It just made me realise that someone's death has shut all doors of life for me, but life moves on......not negatively, but positively.

4. Excellent rendering 

A very interesting event.......After comming to know about the two National Award winning songs, I was determined to listen to them. Unfortunately, they weren't available till recently. However, it was Rabindra Sangeet, so I thought, let me just fish out the old man's songs and make some meaning out of them.

Out of both the songs, I liked the lyrics of ''Aaji bijan ghore'' because I stay in a ''Bijan'' (lonely) house myself. However, when I saw the renderation on screen, I laughed at myself.......almost so mockingly, because it made me realise that nights are as such very difficult to spend if you do stay in a ''bijan''' house!!!

''Dure kothaaye'' was great as well. Both these songs deserved a National Award, because performance hadn't limited itself only to on-screen performance. Only a performer and a good singer knows which emotions to put in to garnish her songs! Well done!!

If anyone wants to visit my ''Bijan'' house tonight to give me company in coffee drinking, I'd be very happy. Monday to Friday pass very quickly. The ''Bijan-ness'' comes every weekend when there's no University work! But the song has captured me as of now......!!

5. Surprise!!!!!

How many will actually believe me if I say I was able to notice the fluency of relationship between an artiste and the director. I almost feel it must have gone like an easy game of chess where you have director Aditi Roy as a game director making the first move, and artiste Roopa Ganguly quickly catching on to the subtleties of the clues and bringing an amalgamation point where Roopa Ganguly blends into Suchismita and Suchismita blends into Roopa Ganguly.

Ankur Khanna, Raima Sen and the rest of the team have caught onto the clues in the same way. Team work is not just a group of heads coming together----it is the group of heads with brains inside them!!! Pardon my sarcastic statements, but this sarcasm wasn't meant to project bitterness. It's funny how one can be sarcastic in one of the most satisfying moments

Strategists in action

6. My mother

The first person who came to my mind while thinking about Suchismita's character was my own mother. I have been away from her so long.......The only advantage being she has seen me quite often in these many years.

Would my mother have missed me so much because I was far away from her?

My mother's friends told me about how lonely and teary she was ever since she left me here....all by myself.

She lives on memories.....

But to her advantage and mine, we both are very much alive......I am comming over to see her and have decided to be with her for a very very long time......As long as she wants me to be there because a mother's love exceeds a child's longing. Children say they miss their mother's food, their mother's talks, their mother's scoldings--but when a mother misses her child, she misses all of him/her....not just parts. A mother is never conditioned to be limited in her love. 

I might not give a crap to anyone else's caring, but when I got an insight into a mother's world, I was shattered---so shattered that even tears wouldn't come out. Thanks a lot for bringing to angle that part of life which I needed to know about the MOST.

Can never fathom a mother's love......And that's my God over the years. One and only, my mom

7. Abosheshey......At the end of it all

At the end of it all, I would only say that I have only briefly written about the complex association of Abosheshey with my own understanding. I cannot expect that much of intelligence from my stupid self. 

Need to enter my world as you did Suchismita's world. But the difference between my world and Suchismita's world is that, there are chances of developing a basic comprehension into Suchismita's world.........because she maintains her sanity and goodness despite everything.

At the end of it all, we are all humans, I am as much human as anyone else. Why should my stupidity refrain me from understanding the movie? I never needed to understand the movie, all I needed to do was feel it.......!!!!

ACTION!!! Already performed!